Here is a little story from me, so everything will be clear.I moved to one of biggest cities in Eu from my poor home country. I had some issues there so i kinda had to leave it (not escape but to leave and start a new life). I’m 23, so we can say basically I had to start my new life here from almost zero since if you’re 23 from a poor country you don’t have that much in your life. I have here my own apartment where I live alone etc, so I dont have a bad life here plus I have a lot better opportunities BUT!!4 months ago a find a girl online. She is from Africa, but learning in EU. Not too far from me, but still around 130 km (1 Hour 30 min with bus, not that horrible).Everything went well, we are officiay together a little bit more than 1 months. She is beautiful, smart, very good raised, feminine etc etc… and what I like a lot is that I’m her first boyfriend, and yes she is even a virgin. Yes she is. I didn’t even understood why she choose me, but she did and that is what’s important. But my problem is guys that since I travel to her every weekend or sometimes she comes to me, it’s VERY expensive. The way there and back is 35 eu, since we are all day together we go into caffees, grab an ice cream, go to museums and dinner at the end. (not fancy restaurants but still 2x from everything so you know..) This is weekly roughly 100-150eu monthly around 350-450. She is from Africa, but still from a very wealthy family. I dont know exactly how rich they are especially compared to Europe but I know that in their country they are very rich. I don’t except her to pay me, split the bill etc because she is studying here, doesn’t work so she kinda relies on her parents but still.. She mentoined her family’s status a couple times and always said that they are very down to earth, not judging other people by money and I can even see it on her attitude too. She told me that she never understood thoose women who got married because of another man’s money, so she is not a gold digger honestly and I can see it on her too.But I saw a couple reels on Ig that she liked.. they were about man should pay for dates, jokes about “i hope nobody thinks that I’m not materialistic because I’am”, and these kind of things and this starts to worry me..And now everybody would tell me that be at my place always, what is a good idea, we even was, but.. As i mentioned she is still a virgin, she told me a LOT of times that she is dating to marry, she was raised her whole life to find a man that she loves and settle down etc etc.. we even talked about this too that both of us are curious about the next 2-3 months, because if the things will go seriuos then you know.. we could plan our future later together. But the thing is she doesn’t want to be here always and sleep here because she doesn’t want to have sex YET. Until she is not sure im the one she wont give herself. I can kinda understand it, because this is very rare nowadays that at age 22 somebody is still virgin, non experienced… but still.. I came here to build my future, save money, I got into cryptos, Investing, dca, thinking all day about money and building the future and become rich and these things normal guys think at this age. But this way I cant really build my future, I can barely save money at the end of the month ( I can but it’s very little money or at least for me). I really want to date this girl and if everything goes well then to build our future together, but im worried about how I will do it with these expenses. Plus another thing that is a big question mark, that her attitude towards money.. she came from a rich family, I don’t know how important for her are the materialistics in reality (not by insta post likes but like in real life), what are her expectations, etc..I know she is unexperienced in dating and I noticed that some things she is not even aware of because of no-experience but still guys… right now I feel that these big “fees” that come with the distance and circumstances could be a problem.What do you think? Could it work out or just leave it all behind if I feel like it won’t?Or maybe try to talk with her about this? via /r/AskMenAdvice https://ift.tt/caP59uv
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