42F 44MCan you help? My partner and I have been together for 14 years and we have two children ages 6 and 10. Our sex life is as flat as a pancake, which is the last thing I ever thought it would be. He’s quite happy to spend hours on his phone/laptop researching crypto currency, metal detecting etc whatever his latest thing might be. But God forbid I mentioned that he should look up relationship advice/ sex advice. It’s a complete no. In the interest of fairness, I have bought books on relationships and sex .He’s a good provider and he is a good man, and the one I decided to spend the rest of my life with. I do love him, and he says he loves me and does 100% want to be with me. but this side of things has fallen very flat. He’s currently idea of foreplay is to shove his erection in my lower back in bed and say “are you up for it” I’ll wait until it’s a weekend, but I’ve drunk a bottle of wine and just go for it like a Tasmanian devil who just wants to get on with it. I was working full-time until just before Christmas. He encouraged me to quit my job because I was struggling to manage the children, the house, a full-time job, their various medical and hospital and surgical appointments, and my own various issues.At Christmas, I cooked for eight people on Christmas Day (his family) and did all the prep and cleanup by myself. Boxing Day I cooked for eight people again (my family) again I did all the prep and clean up myself. He was off for two weeks over Christmas.It’s Friday night, he came from home about 5:30 pm, ate his tea, had a shower, and then sat on the sofa and watch TV.I got up at 6:30 am today, did the packed lunches and got everyone ready and into school, gutted and deep clean the bathroom, remove mould from all the windows and all the bedrooms upstairs, deep cleaned our bedroom, had a good sort through, throw out, and tidy. Cleaned all the floors upstairs, clean the kitchen, put away the pots and washing dirty ones, swept up the floors downstairs, did two loadss of laundry, took the dog out for a walk, took the eldest child for her Opticians appointment, referee fights, cooked tea, washed all pots after tea. It is now 11 pm and I am still cracking on with various household tasks and he has been in bed for at least the last hour.And then he wonders why I’m tired.Can anyone please recommend any books/podcasts for him to read/listen to in regard to being more proactive in the bedroom in the foreplay mannerThank you x via /r/relationship_advice https://ift.tt/UVMPk6W
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